07-01-2009, 09:31 AM
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Loneliness
I've been alone a long time. I was never very good at social stuff, except maybe a few times in college. I've been alone ever since.
Now that I've got my OCD and panic mostly under control, I feel this crushing sense of loneliness. It's practically all I can think about these days, like I will be alone for my whole life, and die alone and miserable. I don't want to whine, but I feel like my hope is fading away.
I just don't know what to do. How do i meet people, how do I do anything...
Does anyone else feel this way? What can I do to help myself..I just feel like I have no ability or chance to connect with anybody, that I'm a wretched person. Maybe in the past this didn't bother me so much, like I figured I'd just have to wait and something would happen. Now I know this isn't the case..it bothers me more than anything...and nothing is just going to "happen" on its own.
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07-01-2009, 10:20 AM
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hello TYCHO- SNAP , I HAVE OCD AND ANXIETY AND DEPRESSION AND I FEEL LONELY - DO YOU HAVE A DOCTOR OR ANY THERAPY GOING ON FOR YOU -welcome to TTL.
BRANDYXX
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07-01-2009, 10:52 AM
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I have a psychiatrist, and I am going to try to start therapy soon.
I just don't know if it will help...
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07-01-2009, 10:56 AM
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To be honest from reading this I think your on the right road to meeting new people, you seem genuine and friendly and your interest to meet new people is what kick starts you.
I mean, look into what interests you, start a hobbie, evening class, or go to daytime classes, get a new job ect.
It's little things that make you meet people and I'm glad you have everything else under control.
I feel that way all the time, but I love music and when I went to gigs I wanted to do I met people who had the same interest and I'm still friends with them now.
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07-01-2009, 11:27 AM
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I know how you feel, but this is what I've been thinking the last few days:
Find something you like to do, then stay with it. You will meet people on the same wavelength as you, and it should be far easier for you to connect with them. You have qualities that matter, you just dont see them.
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07-01-2009, 05:08 PM
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therapy should help, it sounds like the above gave you some very good advice, hope you can try it and that it helps
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07-02-2009, 01:46 AM
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honestly, i think ur heading in the right direction. u might be different, but loneliness was the last part of my depression. i still fade in and out of it. after all, like u, i have very few friends. ive never been the popular girl. the last time i was popular was in tenth grade in high school and everyone found out about my cutting from my cousin and the next thing i new, i had no friends. and now im afraid to meet people bc of it. i feel lonely now bc im single, been that way for over 3 yrs and i desperately want it to change. though ive recently read that i should be happy with being this way, i mean this way i dont have to go by what another person says or anything like that, i can do what i want. take some time find something new u like to do. maybe something creative like drawing or something, i write poetry. then branch out. but njoy this time to urself, not everyone gets to have it!
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07-02-2009, 09:57 PM
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Sometimes feeling lonely is really all in your mind (no offense) I'm just saying sometimes you feel lonely when you can really call someone up (friends or family) and go out and do something (go out to eat, bowling, etc..) sometimes it just feels like you're lonely when you're really not. (That's good old depression for you right? lol) Trust me, I know how it feels as I am going through depression and have been off and on for about 10 years now (and I'm only 26!)
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07-02-2009, 10:15 PM
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no offense, distressedanddepressed but sometimes people really are lonely and have no one to go "bowling" with. But I appreciate where you are coming from and sometimes perceptions do get muddled by depression.Nice blog btw.We should all do that.Expression is healthy and therapeutic. tycho911 I don't know how to help you with your loneliness seeing as I have been lonely alot longer than you but we are all supportive here at TTL.It's a little respite from this life to come here and feel like you can at least relate. 2 days, 6 hours, 33 minutes and 25 seconds smoke free. 45 cigarettes not smoked.
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07-03-2009, 12:34 AM
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I have a few friends so I'm not completely alone. But this is different.
My best friend is married so he can't hang out all the time, and my other friends aren't that close really. I'm just so afraid of social situations where I don't know people.
The main problem is I want to be a with a female of the species :) Its not like I'm horribly ugly or grossly fat or something, nor do I totally freeze up when talking to a girl. I just don't have anywhere to go to meet people. Should I go to bars by myself? I dunno. And I'm afraid if meet someone they will think I'm some desperate freak.
But I've been like this for 10 years, so its gets more and more depressing and I feel like I will be alone forever. Add to that my anxiety and OCD, and the fact that I work at home, I'm pretty much feeling bad all the time.
Strangely, the happiest I've been this year was when I was in a mental hospital for a week; at least there were people there. Now that I've got my meds and I'm feeling better in some ways, this loneliness is getting worse. Instead of obsessing about weird fears and stuff I guess I'm obsessing about this, but drugs can't make this go away.
Sometimes I don't want to even get out of bed.
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