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Old 02-22-15, 06:36 PM   #1
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Hello Im new to this site and have been diagnosed as Bipolar in 2010. I had my first manic episode in 2010 after being on a medication for anxiety. Honestly I wish i never took those pill, because they induced my manic episode. But anyway After the episode I had decided to tell close family members about my diagnosis such as my mom, dad, brother and one friend. My family said I didn't need any medication , my friend tried to supported me but honestly didn't know what to say or to do, and my brother asked me if I was on street drugs! That really hurt, when someone you are closest to ask you such a question which violates your character.
Anyway ever since....... I've realized I had to deal with my illness by myself
I moved away from my home town. But had to move back because I lost my job, had to change to different meds due to insurance and money. Now Im just trying to get myself back on my feet. I feel like when I get upset its always over exaggerated by the fact I have a mental illness ....like "oh she's up set, did you take your meds today" NO IM UPSET BECAUSE MY LIFE IS IN A DISARRAY AND I HAVE NO SUPPORT AND I JUST HAPPEN TO BE PMS'ING !
Okay that's a little about myself can anyone else relate or share some ideas that work best for them when they feel alone dealing with this illness ?
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Old 02-23-15, 07:59 PM   #2
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people sometimes don't know how to react so they just say what we consider stupid like " did you take your meds?" or " go take your meds" and they actually think they are being helpful. the only thing that can change that is if they educate themselves on bipolar. and most people don't understand it. they consider it being " moody" because it's a " mood disorder"
but it's more than that. it affects every aspect of your life. and they need to understand that. sometimes manic episodes hit your relationships, your pocketbook, you social life, your ability to take care of yourself physically.your safety!( people thought I was on cocaine! I never did drugs! I did self medicate with alcohol before I got diagnosed..that was the wrong answer..made me even more manic)
i have people who belittle my bipolar because it's " funny" when I get manic, i have all these ideas, i'm all sociable, i paint my kitchen. they don't understand that mania can also cause random feeling of being furious for no apparent reason, and cussing a lot. then that happens, or you go into a anti-social period and everyone makes you feel bad for not hanging out or answering the phone.
there's a saying I saw" sometimes my alone time is for your safety"
it's tongue in cheek, but seriously..sometimes if people don't want to look up bipolar and read about it in depth and try to understand you, it's best to hand them a book or send them a web link...and say...you guys, it's not funny! this is serious. I am on my own here until you guys understand what's going on.
i have four grown kids who took the time to look up bipolar when I was diagnosed, when they were little( they looked it up as they got older) they understand when I start losing it do not say " go take a pill" and they don't get offended if I go to my room. cause we openly discuss it. my husband stayed with me through it all and in the beginning he tried the " go take your meds" thing and that was a nightmare, but he figured out that's inappropriate and now understands when i go off to be alone. I do that a lot, meds, even when you take them only do so much. but I go in my room and quiet my mind and it helps. and my family understands it now.
my friends..not so much. so I don't have many, but for me that's good, because it's stressful and for me it's exhausting to be with friends, especially the ones who try to tell me how much fun being bipolar must be. they get mad if you don't answer your phone too. anyways..surround yourself with supportive people. tell your family to do some research, and that medications do like 1/3 of the control..the rest is you hanging on by your fingernails..and if they could be a little less flippant, it would be very much appreciated.
( sorry..I am in one of my raging moods :) but it will pass)
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Old 02-24-15, 03:08 PM   #3
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Thanks for the reply Tess. I agree with the friend thing, I only have about 3 that I talk to or txt and one of my three friends know that I'm BP but I still don't say anything when I'm having a episode or just not feeling like myself. Instead I just totally avoid there calls and txt! Because truth is if they haven't done their research they wont be able to comprehend why it is that taking a pill only fixes 1/3 of the issue as you say. I must say I am so happy I found this site where I can talk , or rant , with people who understand what Im going through.
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me too..very glad I found this site. people are nice here. we are all here to help support each other, it's a little sanctuary :)
a thing about bipolar some people don't know, sometimes the hypomania or mania takes a more sinister turn, instead of being social and fun, it can sometimes make (me..probably all of us...) a bit hostile. but when people read the scientific list of symptoms, you the closest they get to hostile is " irritable". when that happens i think it's better not to answer the phone :)
but it's something I wish everyone knew. of course when it passes you forget to tell people that happens sometimes...
just relieved when it goes away.
anyways..good luck with the journey :)
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