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Old 06-06-16, 09:57 AM   #1
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I'm still having fake fights with people in my head. It happens incessantly. The only thing that helps is to keep distracted.

But maybe that's masking the problem.

Here's an example of a negative daydream I just had while doing my lesson plans:

My students are top notch. One of them is a visiting scholar who will soon be delivering a speech at an Ivy League university (this part is actually real).

The figment was this obnoxious idiot I saw on TV. She said "your lesson's too hard! It's too hard!! It's too hard for them!!" Then in the daydream, she taught my class very basic, preschool caliber English. She was even talking to them in a baby voice. Then the director gets mad at me (in the daydream) and says "students are complaining that your class is too easy." So I go back to working on lesson plans. She starts up again saying "that's too hard!!" I cussed her out. I said "they said it's too easy you dumb ass bitch!!!" I was furious.
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The in another one I give her my lesson plans. She walks to work all super duper excited, like way TOO excited over how "great" the class will be. Then Malcolm X goes, in his tense way, "this is highly HIGHLY exciting. You should be highly HIGHLY excited." I got really irritated. I said "I went to a top uni, I'm used to doing projects all the time, who cares?" They ignored me and kept at it. So I threw a fit.

So maybe I just get anxious with dealing with people and should avoid them?? So I won't be anxious and angry all the time at them for their ways?? Or should I learn to fight back?? (I mean *really* fight back, none of that "I don't appreciate" crap).
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I was also in a same situation like you and meditation for calm mind helped me a lot .You can search on yt for it
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Did it help you with anger or with daydreaming?
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So maybe I just get anxious with dealing with people and should avoid them?? So I won't be anxious and angry all the time at them for their ways?? Or should I learn to fight back?? (I mean *really* fight back, none of that "I don't appreciate" crap).
Hey SensualGirl, I feel the same way about being anxious when dealing with people but unfortunately avoiding people, especially in the workplace, isn't that easy. That's why when the company I work for went from 2, 12hr shifts to 3, 8hr shifts, I choose 2nd shift because it pretty much put me alone in the area that I work in plus second shift pays the most. Truth be known, I hate dealing with people. I would much rather be left alone, not bothered and have people "not in my way." I just work better that way which has me asking myself....is there something wrong with me for feeling that way?.?

I truly hope it gets better for you.

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Hi lost one,

I don't think there's anything wrong with us for feeling this way. Some people are just psychologically more geared towards being alone even though most people would rather socialize.
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