I've come to a place where I am learning how to speak up and say no to things that cause anxiety. Recently I "fired" a client of mine for what I feel was a joke that was in poor taste. At first, they apologized. Hours later they sent a scathing message calling me crazy, etc., etc. The truth is that the only person who looks crazy in this situation is this person for sending me name-calling messages hours later. My message, mind you, was polite and wished him well. The things is because I do have psychological issues and little friends when people make comments like this, I find it still bothers me initially.

How do I get over things that other people say? Do I just keep kicking it out of my head as the thoughts come? I don't know what to do...

Hi dreamer777,

I think it is good that you can remind yourself what the other may have been inclined to do, & how you yourself were able to handle the situation. For me, I know this is something I too struggle with. I tend to think I am the nutty one, & that others can see this. & that I am bad, & I can not have made an okay choice.

I guess it can be a good feeling to know that your conscientious wasn't far off, & you made a decent decision.

For the time being, until the esteem in yourself is built up, it may still bother you from time to time until it no longer does. In my own experience this is what I have found. I think this initial reaction isn't really bad, as it is a defense mechanism & means you care about yourself & others.

Over time, it won't lay so heavy on your mind ( when you have this as an initial reaction*)

thank you for the encouragement. good to know that I am not the only one who struggles with this

Always remember that the way people act is more a reflection of themselves than it is of you.

Thanks udevi! I had this revelation a month or so ago and it's helped me remain calm and at peace with myself when people say or do mean things. Great reminder to have!