Originally Posted by SensualGirl
Thanks for responding.
-They call me names to manipulate me, like asking "are you a freak nasty ho or are you a queen?" I don't want to be either of those!
-I'm assertive in general. I'm secure in my promiscuity for the most part because I know that gender is a social construct.
-I fucking HATE when the male voices are manipulative and act like "father knows best." I'm GLAD my father and grandfather are dead, sorry if that sounds like a bitchy thing to say. Father figures don't know what it's like to be a woman, sexually repressed. They don't realize that I don't want to get married. So am I supposed to be celibate for life?? It doesn't sink in with them that if I'm celibate until I get married, and I'm never getting married, that I'm celibate for life!!
-How do they have morals if they're trying to shame a girl out of freedom, a girl who hurts NO ONE?!
-Yes I think I'm seen as a threat because I'm like Samantha from Sex and the City: promiscuous, non-conformist, yet still successful and have my act together for the most part.
Well in my opinion you should avoid people who outright insult you.
If you don't want to be a whore or a queen, don't be, just be yourself.
Also, please forgive me for what I am going to say now, but in my opinion you are in serious need of a reality check. Gender is a social construct? Excuse me, but gender is a biological reality that is forced upon us. It is an accident of birth, and it can only be escaped partially. You will always be viewed as a woman, because you are a woman. You will always be a woman, unless you change your gender, which is painful and extreemely costly. There are only a very few things in this world that a woman can not do, and I think you should appreciate this freedom that the feminist movements have earned for you and future women. Being a women is hardly a disadvantage theese days.
Promiscuity and security are mutually exclusive, at least in terms of physical health. Being promiscous inherently carries with itself the constant risk of getting infected by some disease, even if you protect yourself. There is no secure promiscuity, only safer versions of promiscuity. Since you have stated that you will not get married, it is entirely your bussiness what you do with your own body, but I don't think you are a secure person, because you are one of the most active users on this site. Reading through most of your posts, I get the impression that you are a deeply disturbed person who is struggling for her own freedom no matter the cost.
The part about your father and grandfather tells me a great deal about you though. Father figures don't know what it is like to be a woman? This is extreemely judgamental on your part. And I must point out that you obviously don't know what it's like to be a parent, or more importantly, a father, thus your condemnation is not justified. You call them manipulators, but is it possible that perharps you don't want to see what they are trying to point out? If there are people reaching out for you, and you reject everything they say, you will never get along. I get the impression that you had serious issues with your father. Maybe you hould bring that up with a therapist.
A caring father sees her daughter as someone who needs constant protection. She needs to be protected from low quality males, her value and virtue must be preserved. This is comletely basic human behaviour and there is nothing wrong with it.
Women are inherently more vulnerable sexually then men. This is why father figures in your life are so harsh towards you, and this is why most people will sneer at your promiscous behaviour.
I agree on the threat part. I think peole really see you as a threat, but you should think about what that means.