Originally Posted by Introspective
I know I'm being abused but I can't find it in myself to hate him for it. At least not for very long. He suffers from ptsd plus he's always had a stubborn, dictatorial personality but there was so much good in him. All that "good" is gone now, dead or buried deep. I just wish his words and his glares didn't hurt so much. I'm so tired of crying
Originally Posted by angie
Good people do hurtful things...that does not mean you have to be there to experience that abuse.
I do think behavior is purposeful and someone who verbally abuses you in a relationship knows they are doing it. If that person is dealing with some sort of mental illness such as schizophrenia or mental illness like that, that is a different story. However that does not excuse their actions and that does not mean you should stay in a relationship with someone who needs help with that.
Well put angie.
Introspective, regardless of why this person is being verbally abusive toward you, he has no business doing it. Don't hate the guy as you'll only drag yourself down but if the abuse continues, get out. It's just as bad as the physical abuse and no you're not being too sensitive. Even the strongest of steel will break from fatigue if it is being constantly stressed.
Make it clear to him that if he doesn't get the help he needs, then you're getting out. If he's getting that help, then be as supportive as possible but DON'T let yourself become submissive.
l hope this helps you.